2017 02 28
It’s the last day of February! Not that I am encouraging time to go by at any faster speed. When your days ahead are numbered less than the days behind, you don’t want to rush time!
One of my favorite poses for photos is from behind. The illusion is absent any plusses or minuses of my face. And with other people in the picture it reminds me of the vulnerability I feel when OUT enfemme. Guys have flat shoes usually tied on, feet in socks, legs enclosed in pants no matter which way is up, short nails, short hair, covered torso’s, minimal to maybe no rings and bling, all developed over eons for escape, defense, or aggressiveness. There is definitely a handicap in long hair, nails, rings, a skirt, exposed legs, stockings, and heels. Even flight is hampered. I feel this every time I am OUT. It is SO much different when in drab.
This is SUCH FUN!
The Apartment Lounge is a great neighborhood bar that just happens to be welcoming to the straight population too. You know when you come in there that you are going to be rubbing elbows with a mostly gay crowd. So expect stomach aching humor, lots of hugs, kindness, and a warm welcome.
The shoes were gray when I bought them with the intention of recoloring them to yellow. I have since also done a hat.
At The Apartment Lounge. You would think that a place known for the gay crowd would be completely safe for a CDer. And it is. Except that men are aggressive. One time I was sitting at the south end of the bar minding my own business. A guy six seats to the north made some small talk. I made polite replies. After about two sentences he was five seats away. Then four. Three, two. Then sitting next to me. He offered to buy me a drink, I am still trying to get smashed on Coke and grenadine. After telling me his life story, seems to be a standard with guys, he asked me if I would let him take me back to his place and tie me up. Oh let me see………hmmmmmm…………. NO WAY!
Again at The Apartment. I love this suit So business like. Except for the feminine touches like the pleats and the bows. Combined with the red hat, bling, and shoes it is understated but asks the question “What else is red?”.
Now we know what else is red. Her horns under that hat are red. At Bobbarino’s in The B.O.B.
This dress, from GWs was too small but I HAD to have it! It was made with a navy stripe down the sides so I replaced that stripe with one that was wider and wallah! It fits! I love the from-the-behind and from-the-front in the mirror. At DSW.
A white linen skirtsuit is SO fem. Add the red accents and it is pure white interrupted by sexy red. At GR Pride. Since then I have painted a hat to match the shoes, which I had previously changed to red.
Going to The BOB. And at the bar in H.O.M.E at The BOB. I love this lace dress. It was from a damaged freight place, they buy out the inventory from stores that were storm damaged or semi trucks that are in an accident. The hangers had ripped the lace shoulders on all of them. I bought it for like eight bucks and from Joanne a spool of thread. It took and hour to repair the lace. You can’t tell now.
Waiting at the bar in The BOB. Hoping Mr Tie Me Up doesn’t show. But a guy did offer me money for unspecified services. I am already WITH someone in my life that no one could compare to.
The shoes were black when I bought them intending on changing the color to white. They are very comfortable and I have a rainbow of colors now.
At Dress Barn. Don’t get between me and a mirror. To get these I had to put the camera on a clothes rack, do the zoom, set the timer, push the button, and run over to pose. Then go back to the camera, review the picture, start the process all over again, but this time a bit different to get the mirror just right.
OMG I LOVE this dress! It fits like a second skin. The black velvet is offset by the white satin collar and cuffs. I had a photoshoot and one of the outfits they provided was this dress. I loved it so much I offered to buy it. But they wouldn’t sell. Then a year later, after searching Ebay ad on line diligently, I found one. One size too small but it still fit. Then the second time I wore it, it tore in the back on a corset stay that had broken through. The corset was old but I was heartbroken about the dress. I repaired both but the dress now has a little bit of a pucker in the back. Amazingly about four months later ANOTHER dress showed up on Ebay and the right size too! So no more heartbreak and total cost about $40. I love the contrast between the black velvet and the long legs. The ankle straps, hollow platforms, and peep toes make it a bit more sexy.
This dress is amazing. The back is an open mesh between bands of the dress material. This is fully dressed from head to toe except that all but the waist to knee is somehow exposed. And even between the waist and knee the coverage is directional. So the cold winter air reminds me that my back and from my thighs down are vulnerable to the cold.
Another pair of my re-colored shoes.
Ah Sequins!!!! And the color contrast between the black and the red. And between the black and the legs! Right there in The BOB lobby. People passing by, too busy with their phones to even notice me. Bliss!
When I first saw this dress it was well over a hundred bucks! Now this gal is more of a GWs budget. I can get fifteen dresses at GWs for what this dress would cost new. So what to do? Wait for a sale and cross my fingers. Why? Because this little number is tight packed black sequins. Unless you run your hands over the dress from bottom to top. Then it is silver. The women at the bar, “Billy’s”, couldn’t get over this and I was rubbed down and up over and over. Note the lower back opening, it is boat neck in front. So I wore a long silver necklace as a choker in front with the extra hanging down my back. I could feel the cool metal on my skin.
I LOVE THIS! It is an adventure. Full of new experiences. And one of the best parts is I get to experience the total opposite too. I am absolutely madly in love with my SO. It is like winning a lottery.
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