Way OUT There!

2016 10 06

Every year Grand Rapids is blessed with an event where around one thousand five hundred pieces of new art are displayed in one hundred and seventy venues.  Places ranging from the city art museum to a picture in the office of an auto body shop.  Bars, clubs, a bank, hotels, office buildings, parking ramps, parks, on the side of buildings, on a bridge or two, in the water under a bridge, in the lobby of the city police headquarters, in the windows of a parole office, in the historic Women’s City Club, they all become art galleries for about a month.  People come to gawk, photo, and enjoy the sights.  About thirty thousand people per day (average) attend.  And in the midst, providing free maps, directions, and suggestions on what to see and in what order, were two crossdressers.

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Amy Pond and I volunteered to act as guides, welcoming people to ArtPrize and Grand Rapids.  Each Wednesday for a month we gave out maps, suggested what to see next, how to see the most in the least time for those in a hurry, and just interacted.  We were in hundreds of photos.  A few people asked polite but probing questions.  The vast majority said things like “oh what FUN!”, “You look beautiful!”, “I like your dress (or hat, or shoes, or purse, or necklace, or outfit)!”.  We were usually in out blending mode.

EXCEPT this time.

dscn8827-2It might not look like it with the traffic lights behind us stopping all pedestrians, but we were literally OUT there in the midst of thousands.

Every time we had gone OUT enfemme before it was in a manner to totally blend in.  Oh yes we certainly were at the well dressed extreme end of that possibility.  But never dressed to DRAW attention.  Until yesterday.  We definitely did draw attention.  I could see people smiling, pointing, waving, taking pictures, up and down the street, on both sides of the street, as we walked along the sidewalk.  The vast majority had fun with us, only a very few didn’t join in, maybe one percent.  This was on a 3 mile walk IN HEELS!

We too were in about fifty to a hundred photos, received MANY “You look beautiful” compliments, and a thousand or two smiles.  And maybe six blank stares and one frown.  And three people who asked “Why?”.  To which we just said we were volunteering and decided to do something different.  We handed out a bunch of maps, suggested a route to a couple of dozen groups, and had conversations about we as fairies with probably a hundred groups.  Even some discussions about trans and life.  Some polite and probing questions.  It was a privilege to answer them.  There were groups of children excited to see the fairies, so sweet, innocent, it brought out all of my protective instincts.  We are ambassatrix for ArtPrize, Grand Rapids, and the LGBTQ community.  By and large the result was we made a lot of people’s day a bit more entertaining.  Maybe if we were lucky we helped a few people see that what they don’t understand isn’t necessary to demonize.  And we had a lot of laughs.

I feel SO lucky to live in Grand Rapids!

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SUCH FUN!

Billie

NOT KIDDING MYSELF

2016 10 01

Happy October all!  It is the National Crossdresser Month!  If you always wanted to attend a Group meeting or get OUT, this is your month!

And, NO, I am not kidding myself or anyone.  I KNOW that I don’t really blend in as in completely unnoticed.  But compared to the General Population’s concept of what a crossdresser looks like, I am blending in as a well dressed woman.  That and the need to attend to their cell phones, general lack of attention span, is probably why we tend to pass through largely ignored.  And that is the main goal.

To experience the world in a manner as much like the real thing as we can.

WHY?

Imagine building a race car and never driving it.  A lot of work to not find out what it will do.  It takes me FOUR HOURS to get ready.  Making a silk purse out of a sow’s ear isn’t easy or fast.  When I am done, I want to see what it can do.  That simple.

And I am not going OUT in sweats and flip flops.  Not in jeans and a hoodie.  Not in leggings and a tunic top.  I HAVE to wear pants and a shirt, generic all, most every day.  WHY would I do that when I am enfemme?  And a housedress?  NFW!  I am going to look GOOD, coordinated, and fashionable!

rsz_dscn8720Amy Pond and I at Meijer.

Feel free to leave comments on this blog.  You may also tell me if you prefer that your comments be private.  As the all powerful blogger I get to decide what shows up on the blog.  Compliments are appreciated.  Suggestions are encouraged.  Criticism will result in an army of minions beating down your door.  (Just kidding!)

You can also email me at
Crossdressers-wmi@hotmail.com

The Grand Illusions website is at:
http://www.crossdressersmichigan.com

SUCH FUN!

Billie