2016 04 11
I am still having fun. Maybe all the people I run in to are not totally pleasant. Maybe a small percentage are just plain mean. But I CHOOSE to have some fun. Regardless of the bad people.
Crossdressing isn’t the darling child of every TV sitcom. The entertainment industry, fashion industry, the media may have become bored with the gay population and found a new and titillating story in trans people. So the awareness is raised about trans now. As a side affect the awareness for trans and gay has also found the religious extremists. Much proselytizing by the “righteous” in the more extreme churches. Perhaps not extreme, yet the Mormon church just produced a doctrine that even the children of gay parents will suffer the consequences of their parents lives. Around 2500 people dropped out of that organization as a result. Previously that organization decided that maybe blacks were not so evil after all. Positively medieval to think they weren’t worthy in the first place. The bible does have a passage about punishing to the third and fourth generation. You would think by the second generation that it would be more than enough?
But crossdressing is still fair game for anyone needing to humiliate a non conforming citizen. Trans people have also become the scapegoat for those who are dedicated to hate. Ignorance has become the new status symbol for those who are ignorant.
I am still OUT there, doing my thing, harming no one, adding a little spice to the world.
I was OUT Friday April 8th. All Day!!! SUCH FUN!
I wore the black coat over the yellow skirt suit because it was cold outside. It was snowing off and on. I love the temperature differences. My head is plenty warm. My torso and arms are warm because of the coat ($15.00 from GWs). But the front of my neck and the upper chest isn’t. And although I am completely dressed, effectively I have nothing protecting me from the elements upper thigh down. I was completely covered including stockings to my toes, but that doesn’t mean there was any insulation value. Such Fun! The skirt suit came from Yonkers. I fell madly in love with it the instant I saw it. But it was expensive, over a hundred! I couldn’t justify that kind of expense. I counted the quantities on the rack, memorized the number of each size, and waited. There was just one my size. Finally they went on sale. I bought mine for about 60% off. Still at $40 I was feeling conflicted because that is a LOT to spend, for me. But I feel so good when I wear it! And the fabric is a coarse heavy knit, plus the big black buttons, and the yellow isn’t a bright yellow, so I wear this in the late winter / early spring with black shoes, purse, bling, coat, and it works.
Mid afternoon I changed in to the yellow fit and flare or swing dress. It is a heavier knit fabric but is really a late spring dress. I found it at GWs. It is a one of a kind because someone made it! And then donated it to GWs!!!!! I rejoiced when I found it at $5! I decided to make it a bit 50s by wearing a petticoat under it. I got the petticoat for about $20 on line. It works with another swing dress that I haven’t worn yet.
I changed in to the third outfit for clubbing. The yellow blazer from GWs ($7.00) over the pleather skirt (on sale for $30 [gasp] from Macys), fishnets ($1.50 GWs), and boots ($10.00 Charlotte Russe). For some reason these boots with a platform and modest heels feel higher than others with less. But I like the way they look and let’s face it, fashion comes before comfort.
BTW I mention the prices because I wish to show that this can be affordable. Please keep in mind that I have been shopping for a bit over three years. If I am patient I can find bargains at the new stores and REAL bargains at GWs. But sometimes, thankfully not very often, I found (past tense) something that I just fell in love with and could see that it would REALLY work. Only three times have I paid full price. Two dresses and one coat. Every time I wear either of those dresses I feel like a fool. Maybe a well dressed fool, but a fool. Well it was very early in my CDing and I didn’t have hardly anything to wear and you know how it is………. Now as for that coat……………. It is the long black faux fur one that I LOVE!!!! I have NO REGRET there!!!! It is long, heavy, warm, has a sheen, and is LUXURIOUS!!!! Every time I put it on I swoon because I feel like a queen. But I did learn my lesson and now shop with a much more cautious eye. And I have cut my purchases to the occasional fabulous find that is something unique, fits perfectly, works with something I already have to complete an outfit. Or is a complete outfit in itself. Something unlike I have now. And in perfect condition, requiring no or very little sewing. And cheap. As in CHEAP! Mostly GWs.
BUT, BUT, BUT, OMG, Macy’s had a sale, Younkers had a sale. OMG! I found a fantastic black dress at Macys that has fine strings, like hair, in tiers, like ruffles made of threads. And the ruffles have silver strands in them. Short sleeves and the dress isn’t too short. Only $15.00. Oh and a navy blue lace dress at Macys with flared long sleeves. OMG! $12.96!!! And a gold knit pleated skirt that is almost a full circle! A DREAMY fabric!!!! And only $14.99. And at Younkers a black very unique blazer with a diagonal zipper that ands at a big bow on the front of the shoulder. Part of the bow goes over the shoulder. And it has GOLD FLECKS! Perfect for the skirt. And “just” $18.60. GASP! GASP! Shot my budget for a while! I spent $61.55 plus tax. Believe me that is a LOT of money to spend on what for me is just fun. But please keep in mind that I was oblivious to crossdressing until late in life. It isn’t like I feel the need to catch up. It is just that I want to experience all the different looks that I see. Each outfit has a personality and effects me as such. It is like the shoes. Each pair has a personality. From the obvious boots/shoes, to the obvious heels/flats, sure. But even two pairs of shoes with the same heel height have a different stride and feel different. Same concept for the dresses. The fabrics are so different and after so much of my life trussed up in 100% cotton or a polyester blend work uniform, body hair eliminating most contact, this is all sensations. I LOVE the fabrics! The stockings! The slips!
And then the next day I get to wear what is completely practical, go in to the garage, and tear something apart and fix it. Weld something. Make something. OOOH!! Wire up something. Also SUCH FUN!
I get to experience the best of both worlds. Yes I also get to experience the ALL of my birth world too. But doesn’t that come with the bargain? At least, once a week, I get to escape and be goofy. Be the opposite.
The curious thing isn’t that I do this. The really curious thing is that EVERYONE isn’t doing this!
Well I am having………………
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